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Executive coaching can help remove the fog from your mirror so you can see yourself as others see you. No, I am not talking about literally entering your home and cleaning your mirrors. What I am talking about is helping you see yourself (and your circumstances) as others see you; helping you identify your strengths and challenges, and helping you move toward more clearly defined and preferred outcomes. Sometimes even our best attempts to remove the fog are less than 100% effective and we still do not get an accurate picture of ourselves.
We’ve all done it at least once. We get ready to go somewhere, and after having that last glance in the looking glass having gazed upon an elegantly coiffured image, we walk away only to have someone point out something we’ve missed. Usually after we are made aware of the discovery, we wonder how many others noticed it and did not say anything. We wonder where our real friends are. We may even have feelings of embarrassment or indignation.
This happens in the realm of business as well. It can be caused by fog on a mirror or by our own personal biases that blind us. It usually takes a trusted and secure associate to make us aware of the issue. But what if people do not feel safe enough around us to speak the whole truth to us? We continue in the fog, making decisions based on inaccurate information, and become frustrated because we never achieve the desired results.
Executive coaches can be the objective third party that cares enough about you and your organization that they present you with the truth about yourself. Through the use of tools like the Johari window, executive coaches are able to help improve the client’s self-awareness. As we become more receptive to constructive criticism, we then become able to grow and improve the organization and ourselves. We have recently seen this concept demonstrated in the “Under Cover Boss” episodes.
The late Mr. Jim Rohn once wrote, “We could all use a little coaching.” Executive coaches, who are armed with the proper tools, can help remove the fog from your mirrors and help you better see yourself. This more self-aware leader is more productive, less stressed, and more amiable in the workplace. So the next time you are feel you are not getting the real feedback, or see people shying away from you, or you have a surprising and embarrassing revelation about leadership, ask yourself if you think an executive coach could have helped clear the fog and prevented it from occurring.
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An outside viewpoint can be so helpful to support your business. Open, honest feedback serves a wonderful purpose.
Thanks for sharing,
Val
Val Wilcox´s last blog ..The Power of YOU!
Val,
I agree. As I tell all my clients and prospective clients – an ‘objective third party who has a vested interest in your success is always helpful.’ I know that it has been in my life.
Thank you for your comments.
Blessings,
~John
Thank you for bringing this up. I am one for coaching. People don’t realize that whatever you walk of life, you always need a tune-up in any profession. Coaching is important because, like you said, others see you differently than you see yourself. Thank you for bringing this up. It is useful to so many people!
Donna Merrill´s last blog ..11 Steps to Cultivate Your Internet Marketing
Donna,
I love the statement – “With only one exception, the entire world consists of others.” So should not it make sense for us all to understand how to better relate, play, and work with others?
Thanks for your comments.
Blessings,
~John
Dr. John,
Another great post. You keep bringing the value, my trusted friend. I appreciate all you offer to the business community and to leaders. I know I have had those “ah-ha” moments when a leadership truth hits me between the eyes and I wonder how I didn’t see it clearly earlier. Coaches are wonderful, and no matter what level of leadership we may ascend to, we always need a mentor, a coach, someone who can help us improve.
Thanks for being you!
Krista
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Krista,
Thank you for your kind words and comments. Like you mentioned, there have been numerous times my close friends or coach has helped me see something that may have become a self-sabotaging habit.
Blessings,
~John
Yes, it’s so important to have an objective viewpoint and an Executive Coach could do just that! I started going to a coach and it was amazing to have another’s viewpoint and insight. It felt refreshing and expanding. Awesome post!
Jennifer,
Thank you for your comments. I just wish I could use it as one of my clients testimonials! Coaching can be a very powerful tool for moving us toward our preferred future. Thanks and Blessings!
~John
Great post, Dr. John! I especially like that you present coaching as a desirable, developmental process rather than a punitive, ‘fix’ for people who are broken! I’m a coach and think everyone who is open to growth and fulfillment could benefit from coaching!
I love your content! Thanks.
Cindy,
Thank you for your kind words. I agree, for those unfamiliar with coaching, it can be a mysterious process. People can often confuse coaching with counseling and consulting. Further more, people often misunderstand ‘discipline’ as a punitive action when it really comes from the word ‘disciple’ which means ‘to instruct or learn.’ Anyway, enough etymology stuff.
Thanks again & Blessings,
~John
Extremely interesting post thanks for writing it I have added your website to my bookmarks and will check back
By the way this is a little off subject but I really like your sites layout.
Gregory,
Thanks for your kind words – both for my post and site layout. I have done / am doing the site myself. It is a work in progress.
Blessings,
~John
My business would be nowhere today if it weren’t for all the helpful criticism I’ve received… I totally agree! We all really could use a little coaching…
Thanks for the post!
Garrett
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Garret,
Thanks for your testimony to the positive outcomes associated with coaching! Wishing you only the best in life and leadership.
Blessings,
~John
I would definitely not be here commenting on any blog right now if not for the coaches in my life, paid and unpaid,. My life is different because of them and I appreciate every single one.
Thanks for your insight on this subject. It’s so important.
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Wow Debbie,
Thank you for your affirming words regarding coaching. Wishing you continued success!
Blessings,
~John
Great post John. Having an objective person to provide constructive feedback is such an important component to helping us improve. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Kara Grabenhorst´s last blog ..What Kind of Ride Are YOU On?
Mentorship is an absolute critical aspect to success. Every single successful entrepreneur that I have ever met in my life has had multiple mentors. Solid post my friend, you are truly on the path to success. Keep doing your thing!
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Matthew,
Thank you for your affirming words. Like you, the successful persons I know all have engaged mentors/coaches of some kind.
Thanks & Blessings,
~John
You’ve hit on something that most people don’t think about once they think they know what they are doing. Most of us recognize the need for coaching as we start out, but to have a coach once we really know what we are doing can make the difference between our having fallen into poor practices without knowing it and keeping on top of ourselves and where we are.
A good coach is usually better than your best friend because your best friend may be too close to the scene to not be looking through the “fog” too.
Thank you so much.
Sandy
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Why has it taken me so long to get here Dr. John!?
Love your site, love the layout, love this particular post as it’s the only one I’ve read so far and love the good Doctor himself.
Looking for testimonials on your coaching site as I could add one of my own when you coached me after my son returned from war. You were an awesome help for me and you’ll be happy to know he and I are doing FABU! So there you have it.
From one coach to another, I’d say you nailed what we do in this post quite adequately. Thank you!
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Kellie,
Thank you for your kind words. Glad to hear things are going well.
Blessings,
~John
John,
Thanks for the post. I have learned the best way to evaluate managers (myself being one) is during a crisis or when the “Mirrors are foggy”. Anyone can lead well during times or ease or clarity. It takes guts, good decision making and lack of regard for your career to truly lead well. After being an employee for 21 years with the same company I took a leap of faith and went on to become a manager. The work is even harder than I imagined and the decisions come faster and often with no precedents to fall back on. I have been blessed so far with an outstanding boss who gives me leeway and outstanding results. Most importantly those who I have had the opportunity to lead gave me their best efforts. “We were soldiers” is one of my favorite movies and their are tons of leadership lessons in that movie.
Hey John, great perspective on coaching and reflection as well.
I sometimes wish I had a live in coach 24/7. So many times I’m going down a certain path (like a sudden realization yesterday with my blog) and then all of a sudden, maybe a week later, I just click!
The click will come so much sooner if someone who knows you well enough can just point it out!
Anyway, even coaches have coaches. Great insight John!
George,
Thank you for your comments. Your are correct about “even coaches have coaches.” My inspiration for the article came during a coaching Mastermind group that I attend.
Blessings,
~John
That will surely help all readers here Dr. John.
Others always help unless they have wrongful type intentions.
Coaching is awesome!
Andrew,
Socrates stated that “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Sounds like a great promo line for coaching!
Thanks for stopping by. Looking forward to more dialogue!
Blessings,
~John
Hey Dr. John great article. I love finding coaches to help guide me through difficult parts of my business. There are people who have been there and are where I ultimately want to be, so why not have them help guide me?
Having a personal coach is an excellent way to break through barriers and become better than we are. I seem to learn a ton by reading about people’s experiences and learning from their mistakes (although I still make plenty of mistakes)
Do you consider some of your personal friends as coaches? I mean, I’ve learned a TON through the experiences of some of my friends, although i’ve never really looked at them as coaches before… maybe everyone we meet is a coach for us in some way or another?
Keep it up!
-Chris Hughes
Chris,
Thanks for your comments! It appears you have experienced first-hand the benefits of coaching.
Yes, I do have some friends that encourage me along and hold me accountable. It’s the whole “iron sharpens iron” concept. And you hit on a great point – we should choose our friends carefully!
Thanks again for your comments. I hope you come around again!
Blessings,
~John
I really see such a value in providing services
like this for businesses. As I understand it you
can take a lot of the energy wasted on stressing
and bring people into a more productive focused
playing field. How can you loose – right?
I am curious how one comes to the conclusion usually
that this indeed is what a business needs?
Robin Lynn Brooks´s last blog ..Teachable & Doable Social Media Networking
Robin,
Sometime people and organizations get stuck in a rut and need a new set of eyes to see things differently and re-frame reality for them. I have learned though that people are reluctant to change until they hurt bad enough or want to bad enough. So most people and businesses just go through life until a crisis of belief comes along. It is the same idea of performing maintenance on your auto or waiting until it is broken. We think we will save money by postponing maintenance, but it eventually costs more when things break down.
Blessings,
~John
Hey John, great perspective on coaching and reflection as well.
I sometimes wish I had a live in coach 24/7. So many times I’m going down a certain path (like a sudden realization yesterday with my blog) and then all of a sudden, maybe a week later, I just click!
The click will come so much sooner if someone who knows you well enough can just point it out!
Anyway, even coaches have coaches. Great insight John!
Hello,this is Mervin Gillespi, just found your Post on Google and I must say this blog is great. May I quote some of the Post found in the website to my local buddies? I’m not sure and what you think? Anyhow, Thx!
Mervin,
Absolutely! Anyway I can help.
Blessings,
~John