People are typically afraid of negative things. Oftentimes they fear self-improvement as well. In psychological self-improvement, the best way for you to remove a fear is to understand that life is always in the cycle of difficulties. No one is permanently up or permanently down. Remember that no one can avoid these difficulties – even the most envied Hollywood stars.
What we should do about these downs is to learn from them and not to avoid them. We should learn how to handle our problems for our own psychological self-improvement. Problems affect us every day. These problems bring us anguish because we have feelings. We should never lose hope in determining solutions to these problems. All we need is to learn how to overcome it and not to be overcome.
There will always be problems and challenges in our life. Consequently, we should learn and grow from them. This is where Mindsets play an important role.
Psychologists say that we should always be careful in our decisions regarding our problems. We should handle our problems properly and learn how to cope with them. Learning from mistakes helps us in preparing ourselves for psychological self-improvement
There are misconceptions regarding how events in our lives are caused by a pre-determined reason. Another belief says that what we encounter in our lives today is our preparation for other events that could possibly occur our lifetime. To understand what may happen to us in the future, we have to gain knowledge from the present.
With all that, it is also true that the unexpected can happen at any time. However, you should keep in mind that a psychological self-improvement is not always for the worse and consequently, you must never ignore an opportunity, because you are afraid to take the risk.
Remember that, from time to time, something has to happen in order to free you from monotony, so you should not be stunned if, at a certain moment in time, instead of being afraid of change, you choose it with all your heart.
If there are some things that hinder you from going on, here are some tips to help you move forward:
Consider the positive results from the psychological self-improvement. Keep in mind how important they are and reflect on how to increase them, by adding some other good aspects, which need certain assistance.
Try to imagine someone you admire in your situation. How would they respond to the circumstance? Oftentimes as we picture ourselves in a less than desirable position, things often appear much more dramatic than they actually are. If you realize that the other person can handle the change, you can be sure you will be able to handle it as well. This is a good psychological self-improvement.
Think of the worst situation or circumstance that may result. Try to find various solutions to them. Reflect on how much you can lose, if the worst happened, and how important those things are to you. If you find more than one reasonable solution, you are safe and the self-improvement cannot be stronger than you are!
Self-improvement is not bad at all. All we need is to learn how to handle some negative changes. We should also reflect from it to learn and use it in future events that we are likely to encounter.
Always remember that fear and faith both have a future orientation. You cannot live in them simultaneously. Where there is faith in the future, there is power in the present.
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You know I’ve always believed that life is not about what happens to us, but about the MEANINGS we give to what happens…and I’m sure you would agree.
And a very wise person once said to me that the more you grow the bigger the problems that show up as we get big enough to handle them all.
The only people who don’t have any problems are dead people in the graveyard so you better ask the Lord for some hefty problems so you can test how alive and growing you are!!
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Thanks Sandhan for your words of wisdom.
Blessings,
John
Great post John!
We allow Fear to hold such power over us when in reality we have a choice of how to perceive Fear. Using your mind to work through these issues as you point out is wonderful. I especially like imagining someone else handling the situation. That allows you to look at it from a third person point of view which takes the immediate pressure off. This does open up new solutions and avenues of action.
Always enjoy your insights and solutions. Thanks,
Val
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Great article, John.
As a small business coach myself, I’ve learned that if I’m not getting pushback from my clients I’m probably not pushing them hard enough. I’m not doing them anygood if I allow them to be “comfortable” with their current situation.
The harder I push, the more uncomfortable they become . . . but, for those who hang in there through the discomfort, the more successful they become. They hired me to help them reach a new level of success, not to be comfortable where they are now.
Alan Boyer
The $100K Coach
Shortcuts to your first $100K (2nd, 3rd, or more) in your business within a couple of months.
Thanks Alan,
I have always believed that life begins at the edge of our comfort zone.
Blessings,
John
Aloha John,
Cool post! Great topic for many today. I always remember that FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real! That always assists me. Also, I agree with you, faith or fear, you really can’t have both at the same time.
Thank you for sharing.
Aloha,
Kellie
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Thanks Kellie,
I love the FEAR acronym. Thanks for sharing!
Blessings,
John
John,
You hit it right on the head in sharing with us that faith and fear can not co-exist. When we truly know that all things happen for a reason (whether or not we understand that reason) we can free ourselves from fear.
It’s all about how we choose to view our lives and our world. Thanks for the reminder!
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We all know that fear is mostly imaginary. But it’s still so powerful… and debilitating.
I appreciate the idea of imagining how someone you admire would face your fear. I’m trying this one out the next time I’m frozen in the terror of facing CHANGE!
I really think that the root of most fear is change. We’d do just about anything to maintain our status quo. But you’re right, John. Through faith, we can move on to a better future. Without we, fear is about all we have left.
I really enjoyed following your thoughts on this important topic, John. Blessings!
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Hi, John!
I agree with David that our fear is really fear of change. The unknown possibilities give us the jitters even if the self-improvement “sounds” good! Growth is only easy when you’re two years old, determined, and if someone tries to stop you, you say “NO!” Maybe we should feel our way back to age two when we were unstoppable.
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How can I add to what has already been said so nicely? The only additional comment I would make is in using the word “should” in our lives which creates paralysis as well. It creates ‘shame’ from the first time we hear it as little kids.
“Johnny you should know better.” “You shouldn’t have done that.” “You should have handled it differently.” Our parents shamed all over us without realizing it. Changing the words we use, as in “I choose” to do something rather than “I have to” do something really creates more power and less fear in our lives. It’s quite empowering if you know how to change your words.
Enjoyed your thoughts John, thank you.
Kellie
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Hi John,
I really liked the approach of your blog! Fear of self-improvement is very interesting…In fact, it is interesting that you blogged about moving past fear, as I blogged about courage as a combatant to fear, just this week. I love your point about our mindset, considering how we can look at changes and improvement with a positive mindset, as an opportunity to grow. Thank you for your post!
Carolyn CJ Jones
Author/photographer, “Opening the Gates of the Heart”
http://gatelady.com
John,
I really liked what you said about how life starts at the edge of our comfort zone. I believe that’s when we start to wake up. A little discomfort keeps us away from being contempt. And as an entruprenuer we are never contempt. So that means we must always be pushing ourselves. We need to stretch and become that which we were ment to be.
So heres to fear and embracing it!
Ken Pickard
The Network Dad
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Good skills for overcoming fear are so important to business success, since most of the activities we entrepreneurs have to undertake to succeed can bring up fear in us. My clients are learning how to use technology to market themselves, and learning new things always has a component of fear, whether it’s fear of failure, or fear of success.
I don’t have ANY trouble teaching them the geek skills, even if they think they can’t learn, but helping them break through their own resistance to taking action is sometimes more challenging.
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